I don’t want to talk about it

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Photo Credit: Stuck in Customs via Compfight cc

I was thinking about conversations recently and how I might blog about its impact on how dialogue fails…

I know what you mean, I was talking to someone the other day and they didn’t seem to listen to anything I was saying, they just wanted to put their point across. they had all these theories about communication and every time I tried to ask them about one they seemed to ignore my questions and moved onto their agenda.

Yeah, so this blog was about people who rely on a monologue…

Another guy did that the other day; he kept pursuing his point and wanting to talk about the things he had a professional competence in. It was like he wanted to maintain a professional monologue rather than a dialogue.

It’s like the other person doesn’t listen…

It’s about hearing the noise that other person is saying but not listening to what the person says and just putting your point across, irrespective of the other person’s contribution. This woman the other day kept talking about how well I actively listened by nodding and saying ah a lot and summarising what the other person said but I was able to still talk about the things I wanted to cover.

That’s my point…

No, it’s MY point; I was at another team’s meeting the other day and it was like watching a play. Each person had lines to say and they just waited for their cue to say the thing they wanted to talk about. You could see the frustration as people realised what they were saying wasn’t being listened to. It’s as if everyone has pre-rehearsed their lines and they aren’t willing to consider an alternative opinion.

Well, I must be going…

Hold on, I didn’t tell you what this other guy did and how I got round it. Hello? Hello? I guess they’ll leave messages in the comments box below.

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3 responses to “I don’t want to talk about it

  1. Great post, Andrew. This happens a lot on Twitter too. People like to broadcast and tell, tell, tell . . . do this, you must do that etc. I like blogs because they factor in the opportunity to respond – and at your own pace, a point you make well at the end. If you are allowed to monologue then how do you learn anything? How do you develop your ideas if you are not challenged? There’s a big difference in talking and being heard.

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